Getting My Ex Back Seemed Like A Tug Of War – Here’s How I Won
Trying to get an ex back is not easy. For myself, getting my ex back was a real tug of war. There is only one winner in a tug of war and I was determined that I was going to be the winner.
Honestly, winning a tug of war is not easy. Even the team winning is usually left feeling exhausted when it’s all said and done. It’s very much like the feeling that a relationship with problems gives you. Here is what I did though.
The honest truth is that I went completely into denial and I absolutely refused to believe that our relationship was over. I was determined that I would do whatever I had to and I was upfront with my ex about that. I told him to expect me to keep trying to get him to change his mind.
What helped the situation was that he still loved me so he didn’t get upset with my efforts to get him back. It was a rocky ride at times. But I really believe that if he didn’t still have feelings for me nothing I did would have made a difference.
And of course, we had our tug of war. He would try to tell me why we were all finished, I would tell him why that was so wrong. He would tell me he could not stand the arguing any longer. I would tell him we needed to air our differences. He wanted me to give him more space. I agreed to give him space but not if it meant I was letting him go. This went on for quite awhile.
Sometimes it seemed that the more I tried, the worse it was getting. Pretty soon he got real tired of our verbal tug of war. I was pulling in one direction. He was still pulling away from me. Despite all my efforts, he still did not want to be back together. I still wanted him back. Neither of us was gaining any ground and I was getting more than a little discouraged.
I realized that I had a couple of choices. I could continue struggling with the two of us going back and forth even though nothing was really changing. Or I could just let go of the rope and let him walk away from me. I wasn’t happy about either of those choices.
But I decided to go with the second option in a way. Before I let go, I let him know that I was tired of the tug of war and trying to sell him on the idea that we should be together. I then told him I loved him a lot and I did want him back, but the decision was up to him now.
Letting go of the rope was the best thing I could have done. By letting him go, it gave him the space he needed to think things through. It wasn’t long before he called me and we were talking about how to fix our relationship.
There’s no doubt that getting my ex back was a tug of war. But when I decided to let the rope go and gave in, I ended up with the win in the best possible way.
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